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Saturday, October 04, 2008

What’s the matter with Lynne Spears? I’ll tell you what’s the matter with her: She’s a mom, who is a lot like me.

Britney this, Jamie Lynn, that. Who isn’t sick of hearing the drama? When I saw Lynne Spears' new book: Through The Storm, on the shelf at Borders, I cringed. it was a one book that I, (the confirmed, compulsive book buyer) was not even tempted to buy. To be honest, I never even picked it up. The media has told us enough, hasn’t it? Besides, I’m not into the whole “fan girl thing” or the "tabloid thing".. so what could I get out of it?

At least, that’s what I thought until this morning.

This morning, Lynne Spears came to MOPS. There was an audible gasp as Lynne, Elisa Morgan and Lorilee Craker (who co-authored with Lynne) took seats on stools - together on the stage. Elisa asked Lynne about her book…Lynne graciously answered. I smiled when I heard the mother/daughter similarity between her voice and the voices of her daughters I’ve heard on TV. Funny- I sound just like my mother, too. I was surprised, she seemed so, “normal”.

Then, Elisa asked Lynne “ Lynne, a lot of us mom’s have the idea that if we follow some “formula” then things will work out… How do you respond to that?” Lynne’s voice suddenly sounded as familiar to me as my own. “I had a plan... I had a perfect little plan….but, I’ve learned that you can’t control outside influences…and that you do the best you can and hang onto your faith.”

My heart stopped. I didn’t see “Britney and Jamie Lynn’s Mom” anymore. I saw: “A mom.” In her voice- I heard my prayers. That voice that had at first sounded so much like her famous daughters’ voices- now sounded just like mine. Because- I’m one of those moms too.

I had a perfect little plan…I taught preschool...I tried to follow a formula, hoping I could control how my life- and my kids lives turned out. 20 years of marriage and 19 years of mothering have taught me the same lesson as it's taught Lynne Spears. You can’t control outside influences…and that you do the best you can and hang onto your faith. The only "formula" in parenting is the one in a bottle that leaves indelible stains on burp cloths.

“You do the best you can and hang onto your faith.” Lynne’s words resonated from my head to my feet. They were the things I’ve learned in my nearly 20 years in MOPS. No mom is perfect, no kid is perfect…“You do the best you can and hang onto your faith.” Suddenly, I knew the answer to the question that I’ve heard so often in the media- and in conversation.. “What’s the matter with that family?” I can tell you what’s the matter- she’s a mom, just like me. With kids making their own choices. She's doing the best she can and hanging onto her faith.

As I sat in the beautiful ballroom and continued to listen to other speakers, my guts twisted. How many times had I thought to myself- “Those Spears girls need MOPS!” I've joked a few times about sending a few MOPS books to the Spears home. They could use them, right?

All the harsh words I'd heard and said- came back in a rush. As I heard them replay in my mind, conviction set in.

I am all about reaching, EVERY MOM… I have felt passionate about it for years. I’ve devoted almost 19 years to reaching moms through MOPS. But, somehow, I had given up hope on “those Moms.” They just seemed too far away. Too different. Too far removed. And then Lynne Spears came to MOPS. As she spoke, I found out she’s not all that different from me. I felt a connection. I met a sister, even though stage and lights and life experiences separated us.

I wonder how many other moms I make the same assumptions about? Who else have I written off too different or too far removed for me to reach out too? The chances are- those Mom’s won’t have the amazing courage that Lynne Spears had, to come to MOPS, and tell her story. Chances are, they will just continue to feel judged and isolated.

As I sat in the beautiful ballroom of the Grapevine, Gaylord, I wondered how we can bring those moms to MOPS. A place where they could be loved and accepted and welcomed the way Lynne Spears was today. I wracked my brain for answers. I had none. I was asking the wrong question. What if we stopped trying to get them to come to us...what if we went to them?

This morning, I made a decision. I am not going to wait for moms to come to me. I will go to them. I will just love them. Every mom. I will do what I can, wherever I am. (Ok- so every mom, I meet) I will set aside my prejudices, my fears and my ignorance, and I will go- to where they are. Will you?

I wonder what would happen if each one of us did. Scratch that- I know what would happen if we did. And so do you, it’s simple. We would make a better world.

I don’t know about you, but I’m up for a better world. For my families sake and for generations to come.

Lynne - I’m sorry you had to come to me, I appreciate your honesty courage and authenticity. I’m sorry I judged you. I promise you- from here on out, I will go to every Brittney, Jamie Lynne and Lynne that I can find. Lynne- I'm praying for your family- and am enjoying reading the book I never thought I'd buy. Thank you for coming to MOPS this morning. I'm so glad you were here!

Living the adventure with you-
Tracey Solomon- Ministry Advancement Coordinator- MOPS International.

9 comments:

  1. The comments are a great place for you to share your convention thoughts and how God spoke to you through the speakers and music and workshops- I can't wait to hear!

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  2. Tracey,

    Thanks so much for your fantastic blog about Lynne's short yet astounding ten-minute ministry, and the MOPS moms grace and love to her. I'm going to call her and read every word! I'm glad you gave our book a chance--it's truly an amazing story of redemption and God's workings in one family's life.

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  3. I'm praying that God continues to do what he's doing- he's pretty amazing:)

    Thank you for your compliment- and for working with Lynne to write the book- I'll be praying for you as well as God continues to open doors for you. When Ive finished the book- I'll be sure to pass it along:)

    To be honest-I was nervous about posting- being authentic is risky- bu worth it.

    much love- ts

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  4. When Lynne Spears was introduced to a standing ovation, I was overcome with a Spirit of conviction for my judgement of her as a mom. i could hear Elisa Morgan say over the applause "You ladies do not dissappoint." this statement spoke to me of the apprehension that Lynne Spears must have felt over being presented to a huge gathering of Christian women and the judgement she must feel on a daily basis. God forgive my judgement!

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  5. Thank you so much Sarah for being honest- as always I'm so glad that MOPS is one of those places where I find out "I'm not the only one".

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  6. i agree- this was one of the most powerful parts of the whole conference to me... We have all made mistakes, some of us have just been forced to deal with them more publicly than others... I cried as we prayed for Lynee, Birttany and Jamie, for their family, their children and for Gods will and strength in their life... May the family of God surround this family in prayers and support rather than judgement...

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  7. Hi there- thanks for visiting my blog :-)

    I admit I had an issue with Mama Spears' appearance. I do not judge moms whose daughters make bad choices- my mom was a great mom and I still ended up a pregnant teenager. My stumbling block was that they weren't an ordinary mom/daughter pair and that the media portrayed Lynne willfully putting Britney (and Jamie Lynne) into a very volatile, worldly lifestyle common to young pop stars.
    Truthfully, I am still trying to get over feeling that way, but I do give Lynne Spears credit for coming to the conference and I sincerely pray that she can be a solid, stable moral compass for her girls.

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  8. I have to start of by saying I learned so much about myself through the speakers at the convention. I found them all to be amazingly insightful and inspiring.

    Having said that, I absolutely did not get the Lynne Spears appearance. I felt that it was more of a publicity stunt than an inspiration and didn't understand the point. I wanted to find something good from it, I truly did, but I couldn't. Needless to say, it was disappointing.

    Thanks for opening the discussion up for conversation Tracey.

    Lindsay
    http://sillymomthoughts.today.com

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  9. Awww, I was checking in to see if there was another post yet. I guess everyone is over convention by now. I still lay in bed and close my eyes and imagine myself at the Gaylord Texan!

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